We need friends by Ben

At The Feast I suggested God might be inviting us into deeper friendship and connection this year.  If you didn’t get to hear the talk, or would like another listen, you can find a recorded version here.

I thought I’d share with you a couple of the things that had been inspiring me as I prepared for the feast.  

The first was this short spoken word piece by Phil Knox, I think it captures powerfully the desire for friendship that many have. 

The second is a quote by Tish Harrison Warren from her book Liturgy of the Ordinary:

“Christian friendships are call-and-response friendships.  We tell each other over and over, back and forth, the truth of who we are and who God is.”

How is it going finding, cultivating and being the kind of friends who ‘tell each other over and over… the truth of who we are and who God is’?  

Its not always easy, it takes time and attention and can be painful, but its worth it!

I thought I’d start asking Kairos people to tell me how they build friendships and what challenges they face in relationships on their frontlines.  I love what two different people told me this week:  

“I find taking an interest in what people do to relax and what motivates them/makes them tick normally provides space for relationships to grow.  Also, establishing a rapport through perhaps sharing a humorous anecdote often works quite well for me.”

“What helps me most is time to pause with others, which is also a challenge because of our busy adult working life. Friendships come from times you allow yourself to stop and take a breath with someone else.  I try to connect, listen and respond to the people I am with.”

Thank you to the people who shared those ideas with me.  What do you think?  How do you make and build friendships?  What are the challenges to relationships on your frontline?